Raising great kids
Your thoughts create your feelings. If you believe that children shouldn’t raise their voices to the parent, every time this happens, you’ll feel like danger signs are flashing – and thus react/fight back. So instead, think: “My child is getting defiant. I notice I’m angry. Let me take a deep breath. I can choose what to do. There’s no emergency. M... See more
Farnam Street • Dr. Laura Markham: Peaceful Parenting [The Knowledge Project Ep. #52]
Whippman points out that patriarchy is not only terrible for women and girls, it ultimately works against boys and men too. It keeps them closed off, lonely, and isolated. I agree with her. Boys need to be taught that it’s okay to talk about their feelings and to want strong relationships. If they were taught these things, they may grow into differ... See more
Cultivating a long attention span
Whatever he’s doing right now, that’s the most important thing. So I encourage him to keep doing it as long as possible. I never say, “Come on! Let’s go!”
We’ll go to the beach or forest, and make things with sticks and sand for half a day before he’s ready to switch.
Other families come to the playground for twent... See more
Whatever he’s doing right now, that’s the most important thing. So I encourage him to keep doing it as long as possible. I never say, “Come on! Let’s go!”
We’ll go to the beach or forest, and make things with sticks and sand for half a day before he’s ready to switch.
Other families come to the playground for twent... See more
Derek Sivers • Parenting : Who is it really for?
Start with what’s going on for you. Are you angry? Is that because you’re afraid? Or insecure? Maybe you’re just tired and feeling worn down. Or maybe your child’s behavior is reminding you of things in your life that were traumatizing, such as an accident. Take a moment to open up to what you’re feeling with curiosity and without harsh judgment. I
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treating our children, not as they are, but as we hoped they would become.
Adele Faber • Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too
Recover quickly. After every point you lose, recover quickly. After every game you lose, recovery quickly. Don’t wallow in loss. After brain surgery, recover quickly.
In his words: “It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to feel lonely. It’s okay to be sad. It’s okay to feel that you are disappointed in yourself or in someone else. It’s okay. But what’s import... See more
In his words: “It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to feel lonely. It’s okay to be sad. It’s okay to feel that you are disappointed in yourself or in someone else. It’s okay. But what’s import... See more
Self-regulation
You’ll hear this a lot too, but most of parenting is about regulating your own emotions, versus the child’s. That means remaining calm, collected, and receptive to whatever emotional experience your baby is having. If the baby seems unhappy or falls over or makes a weird sound and you freak out, they will pick up on that energy and p
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