Parami Santiyago
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Parami Santiyago
A deep and emotionally attached love relationship will re-awaken their core terror because it re-constellates the experience of emotionally needing another human being. Because of this, people who are caught in this survival pattern often avoid falling deeply in love.
Steven Kessler • The 5 Personality Patterns: Your Guide to Understanding Yourself and Others and Developing Emotional Maturity
we slept skin to skin, kissed with morning breath, created soul ties, talked about our past traumas, encouraged eachother, wiped eachothers tears,seen parts of eachother that we've never shared with anyone,met eachother family, had long deep talks...So yeah I might need a minute.
dabrattniyaaax.comgrief is not a problem to be solved or a malady to be cured. It’s a sacred reality to be entered.
Mirabai Starr • Grieving Together
Grief is not just an emotion—it’s an unraveling, a space where something once lived but is now gone. It carves through you, leaving a hollow ache where love once resided. In the beginning, it feels unbearable, like a wound that will never close. But over time, the raw edges begin to mend. The pain softens, but the imprint remains—a quiet reminder
... See moreAVOIDANCE. Avoidance is usually about fear. Emotions and relationships have hurt me, so I will minimize emotions and relationships. People who are avoidant feel most comfortable when the conversation stays superficial. They often overintellectualize life. They retreat to work. They try to be self-sufficient and pretend they don’t have needs. Often,
... See moreDavid Brooks • How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen
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YOU WITHHOLD YOUR TRUE SELF TO MAINTAIN CONTROL
You share vulnerability — but strategically.
You reveal pain — but only after it’s been reframed, packaged, or turned into insight.
Why?
Because full, unfiltered emotional expression would make you dependent on someone else’s safety, attunement, and care. And that feels like death.
So you:
You share vulnerability — but strategically.
You reveal pain — but only after it’s been reframed, packaged, or turned into insight.
Why?
Because full, unfiltered emotional expression would make you dependent on someone else’s safety, attunement, and care. And that feels like death.
So you:
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For some of us, the fear of intimacy overpowers the desire for it. It feels safer to be alone or in relationships where we are “unemotionally involved” than it does to be emotionally vulnerable, close, and loving. I understand that. In spite of the range of needs and wants that go unmet when we don’t love, it may feel safer to not love. We don’t
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