Parami Santiyago
@parami
Parami Santiyago
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we slept skin to skin, kissed with morning breath, created soul ties, talked about our past traumas, encouraged eachother, wiped eachothers tears,seen parts of eachother that we've never shared with anyone,met eachother family, had long deep talks...So yeah I might need a minute.
dabrattniyaaax.comYOU WITHHOLD YOUR TRUE SELF TO MAINTAIN CONTROL
You share vulnerability — but strategically.
You reveal pain — but only after it’s been reframed, packaged, or turned into insight.
Why?
Because full, unfiltered emotional expression would make you dependent on someone else’s safety, attunement, and care. And that feels like death.
So you:
You share vulnerability — but strategically.
You reveal pain — but only after it’s been reframed, packaged, or turned into insight.
Why?
Because full, unfiltered emotional expression would make you dependent on someone else’s safety, attunement, and care. And that feels like death.
So you:
- Offer emotion
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