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Heartbreak is how we mature; yet we use the word heartbreak as if it only occurs when things have gone wrong: an unrequited love, a shattered dream… But heartbreak may be the very essence of being human, of being on the journey from here to there, and of coming to care deeply for what we find along the way.

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There is almost no path a human being c... See more

“I think more generally our problem is a progressive culture where we are afraid to say what is decent moral conduct, where we can’t really call out what is undignified or distasteful anymore, where we’re terrified to enforce any ethical expectations.”

I’m a natural skeptic who believes the beauty industry is fucking with women to sell more products. I really do think it starts with diet and exercise and sleep, beyond anything you apply topically. My beauty routine is consistent exercise, walking a lot, and drinking a ton of water.

There isn‘t a clean way to get around the idea that personal expression is always at least in part performative. Expression is partly fun because it’s performative.

It’s also not like this type of behavior is a new thing. There has always been the type of person who is performative of their own interests or pursues their work because of the kind of ... See more

Gisele Pélicot said she had recognised only one of her alleged rapists, a man who had come to discuss cycling with her husband at their home. “I saw him now and then in the bakery; I would say hello. I never thought he’d come and rape me,” she said.

The longer answer is: find whatever you’re most efficient at that you also enjoy doing, learn how to get even faster and better at it, and work with clients who are already making money and value your work. Then spend the rest of your time and energy making art until that makes enough money so that you can do less of the first thing. But you can on... See more

“You can create a lot of meaning in your own life by helping someone else do something that is meaningful to them.”

“It sounds like you typically look for a connection that starts at a 10/10. Maybe what you want is something that starts at a 7/10.” I didn’t like hearing this. But it makes a ton of sense. When you are love-drunk you are also drunk-drunk. You’re not really seeing the person, you’re seeing your own phosphorescence.