Passionate and pained
On finding thy self, on seeking to belong, and the heaviness that comes with it
by juliana ong · updated 1d ago
Passionate and pained
how much of our search for connection is genuinely about others, and how much is about affirming ourselves?
juliana ong added 1d ago
- We’ve been told that the meaning of life is self-actualisation, to achieve some perfect state of mental health and productivity. Don’t commit until you have perfect control. But I think that way of thinking will backfire. Because the end point of trying to control everything is you become like a machine: emotionally detached, hyper-productive, supe... See more
juliana ong added 2mo ago
Control and surrender have to be kept in balance. That’s what surfers do—take control of the situation, then be carried, then take control. In the last few thousand years, we’ve become incredibly adept technically. We’ve treasured the controlling part of ourselves and neglected the surrendering part.
Brian Enojuliana ong added 2mo ago
- I think that part of people's problem is they're not in enough gangs. There's this great tension in life where you desperately want to belong to something else and you want to stand apart at the same time. You want to be special, but you want to be accepted, too.
juliana ong added 3mo ago
juliana ong added 3mo ago
- while research shows that people with a stronger sense of purpose tend to have better overall well-being than those without, newer studies demonstrate that spending too much time worrying about what your purpose is can actually (surprise!) have a negative impact on your health.
from What the Hell is ‘Human Design’? I Tried the Next Big Thing in Wellness by Niloufar Haidari
juliana ong added 3mo ago
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