juliana ong

“ for there is nothing

either good or bad, but thinking makes it so:”

It seems to me that love should not make all else disappear but should simply tint it with new nuances; I would like a love that accompanies me through life, not that absorbs all my life

It is in relationships that we discover both our depths and our limits, there that we anneal ourselves and transcend ourselves, there that we are hurt the most and there that we find the most healing.

Humans are fundamentally conflicted. One of the foundational conflicts in psychology is between self-enhancement, or the desire to feel good about who we are, and self-accuracy, or having an honest, realistic understanding of ourselves.

We do not live by our memory; we make use of it to live. Record only what can help you to conceive or to execute, which can be assimilated into your soul, correspond to your objectives, vivify your inspiration, and bolster your work. As for the rest, consign it to oblivion.

A.D. Sertillanges, The Intellectual Life

What would a society look like if it achieved enough wealth to free everyone from scarcity.

Romantic love has taken on excessive significance in modern times because it is supposed to fill the void left by other social bonds. Family, religion, community—all of these have lost their footing. So we charge love with meaning.

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Love, for hooks, is not a feeling but an ethical act, a conscious choice to engage in mutual transformation. To love is to take responsibility for one’s own and another’s becoming, sustaining relationships that enable freedom rather than dependency.

This definition allows for many forms of attachment but roots the concept of love in commitment: a... See more

It reveals that as a woman in the world, if you don’t decide your needs, they will be decided for you. That without a value system, you can be convinced of anything. That you can get engaged before you’re ready, married before you’ve settled on a world-view. That there is a series of misleading narratives and patriarchal pressures that can, if... See more