juliana ong

When we make space for the unseen dynamics within relationship, we welcome relational nothingness. We acknowledge that we might not need to know what is the “problem” to ask, what is truly present here?

Relationship Ecology is the practice of seeing communities, and relationships as part of an ecosystem. By seeing communities as an ecosystem, moments of conflict are not personality errors, but rather, signals that communicate a weak point in the community ecosystem asking for support.

In order to free ourselves from the machine, we need to double down on our real-world desires. Deep down, our bodies are still closer to the animalistic instincts of our ancestors than the technologies we will eventually merge with. Machines are hacking this instinctive system and using it to keep us hooked. It is time we instead become addicted to... See more

If you want to be loved, find something you love. People can sense it when you have something you’re dedicated to. No one wants the burden of being the answer to your dissatisfication.

Parenting does not end; it matures. And, like all mature love, it asks for courage: to learn continually, to forgive repeatedly and to show up consistently, not as the all-knowing parent, but as a fellow human being, who still grows, too.

It takes deep psychological work to love the child we have, not the one we imagined or would choose; to listen fully, respect their autonomy and offer wisdom only when asked. As Anna Freud said, “A mother’s job is to be there to be left.”

about a third of young adults aged 18 to 34 now live with their parents. Nearly 60% of parents financially support an adult child. As difficult as that might be, it is a required adaptation to a profoundly altered economic and social reality.

Christians believe purgatory exists because of God’s divine mercy, but even here on earth, perhaps the waiting period is more merciful than we realize, and in waiting, we are being protected from what we want. Waiting is not wasted time.