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“Freedom is what you do with what’s been done to you” - Jean Paul Sartre (allegedly)

Your life feels terrible because your mind is filled with beliefs that interpret it as terrible.

But here’s the truth that psychology points to:

You’re in the perfect position to change your life.

how love bombing begins: with an emotional high that quickly turns into a confusing crash. Once dependency sets in, the dynamic can shift dramatically, leaving someone feeling off balance and unsure of what just happened.

Success wasn’t simply a product of 10 years of practice or 10,000 hours of work. To understand exactly what was required to maximize your potential and master your craft, you had to look at how the best performers practiced

What both of these traits have in common is that I seem to live my life as if I’m under siege. I’m guessing my amygdala is the size of a cantaloupe.

Most of my withered friendships can be chalked up to this terrible tendency of mine not to reach out.

that boundaries aren’t walls…they’re doors. Boundaries help us decide who we let in, and how. People who have been bombed can learn from a scary and often disheartening experience like this…become wise about who’s safe to let in, so that this doesn’t happen again.

The purpose of education, at this point, is awareness.

It gets trickier as you age, living. More bad things happen. Your parents, if you’re lucky enough to still have them, have lives so different from your own that you’re looking horizontally, to your own cohort, for cues. And you’re dreading the days when an older generation will no longer be there for you—when you’ll have to rely on another