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What both of these traits have in common is that I seem to live my life as if I’m under siege. I’m guessing my amygdala is the size of a cantaloupe.

Most of my withered friendships can be chalked up to this terrible tendency of mine not to reach out.

Phase 1: When we really have clarity of purpose, it leads to success.

Phase 2: When we have success, it leads to more options and opportunities.

Phase 3: When we have increased options and opportunities, it leads to diffused efforts.

Phase 4: Diffused efforts undermine the very clarity that led to our success in the first place.

These are the 4 “phases” to expect as you move from one stage to another:

• Alpha – Life is good and normal. There is order.

• Beta – Doubts arise as you enter a new phase. Doing the same thing only makes it worse.

• Gamma – You feel lost. Things are chaotic and turbulent. This is where you can get trapped and feel like there’s nowhere to go.

• Delta –

But we now live in an era of radical individual freedoms. All of us may begin at the same starting line as young adults, but as soon as the gun goes off, we’re all running in different directions; there’s little synchrony to our lives. We have kids at different rates (or not at all); we pair off at different rates (or not at all); we move for love,

how love bombing begins: with an emotional high that quickly turns into a confusing crash. Once dependency sets in, the dynamic can shift dramatically, leaving someone feeling off balance and unsure of what just happened.

High-context vs Low-context Culture — “In a higher-context culture, many things are left unsaid, letting the culture explain. Words and word choice become very important in higher-context communication, since a few words can communicate a complex message very effectively to an in-group (but less effectively outside that group), while in a