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The present lover makes their partner feel as though they are the only thing in the universe when they are with them. They offer their consciousness, unguarded heart, and undivided attention freely and without obligation. This leads to profoundly fulfilling sex and love.

What both of these traits have in common is that I seem to live my life as if I’m under siege. I’m guessing my amygdala is the size of a cantaloupe.

Most of my withered friendships can be chalked up to this terrible tendency of mine not to reach out.

Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for.

that human value systems or worldviews (which influence how we interpret the world and make decisions… in other words, our operating system for reality) evolves through stages in an upward spiral.

These stages are the structure of how we think.

Each of us as individuals move up the spiral as we age and develop ourselves.

But this doesn’t only apply to

The dollars and hours pile up as we aim for a good life that always stays just out of reach. In moments of exhaustion we imagine simpler lives in smaller towns with more hours free for family and hobbies and ourselves. Perhaps we just live in a nightmarish arms race: if we were all to disarm, collectively, then we could all live a calmer, happier,