psychology

men’s biggest problem is, likewise, a feeling—an unreachable itch, or a marrow-deep belief—that men should still rank above women in the social hierarchy, just not as much as before. This belief may be misguided or unconscious, but it is nonetheless insuperable, and it must be accommodated, for the good of us all.

The good man of the reasonable center, in Galloway’s view, adheres to a code indistinguishable from that of the Boy Scouts: mental and physical fitness, emotional resilience, hard work, financial prudence, caring for others. Few could object to any of this. But the person it describes—a kind and conscientious sort, who aspires to make a decent

Life is giving you a gift. The healthy dynamic tension required to bring a new level of mastery out of you.

that boundaries aren’t walls…they’re doors. Boundaries help us decide who we let in, and how. People who have been bombed can learn from a scary and often disheartening experience like this…become wise about who’s safe to let in, so that this doesn’t happen again.

biggest red flag is just how fast everything is happening. What relationship therapists say is that healthy love has room to breathe.

Phases of Love Bombing Idealization Phase

This is the “wow” stage. You’re praised, adored, and told you’re unlike anyone else (well, you are unlike anyone else, but still). Things feel effortless with this person, and they might say things like “I’ve never felt this way before” after only a few dates. It can feel magical, but it’s also moving at a