psychology

To be human is to be mutable. To be capable of change. To be indeterminate. To know growth.

Now the fundamental madness or abnormality of men lies in the divergence between essence and personality. The more nearly a man knows himself for what he is, the nearer he approaches wisdom. The more his imagination about himself diverges from what he actually is, the madder he becomes.

—Rodney Collin

men’s biggest problem is, likewise, a feeling—an unreachable itch, or a marrow-deep belief—that men should still rank above women in the social hierarchy, just not as much as before. This belief may be misguided or unconscious, but it is nonetheless insuperable, and it must be accommodated, for the good of us all.

The good man of the reasonable center, in Galloway’s view, adheres to a code indistinguishable from that of the Boy Scouts: mental and physical fitness, emotional resilience, hard work, financial prudence, caring for others. Few could object to any of this. But the person it describes—a kind and conscientious sort, who aspires to make a decent

Life is giving you a gift. The healthy dynamic tension required to bring a new level of mastery out of you.

that boundaries aren’t walls…they’re doors. Boundaries help us decide who we let in, and how. People who have been bombed can learn from a scary and often disheartening experience like this…become wise about who’s safe to let in, so that this doesn’t happen again.