psychology

I personally like to think of self-development as an endless series of problems that, once solved, increase in meaning and complexity, making life more interesting as you solve them.

Since the majority of you are in stages blue through green, and since we are focused on our personal lives, these will almost always involve the big 3:

• Work

• Health

•

Change must be possible if you want to reach the next stage.

You need either the skill acquisition, resources, or environment that allows you to see the potential for change.

This corresponds to the concept of “horizontal development” in Susanne Greuter’s ego development theory.

In order to move up vertically (to new stages) one must acquire a

Consequence vs Conviction — “Where there is low consequence and you have very low confidence in your own opinion, you should absolutely delegate. And delegate completely, let people make mistakes and learn. On the other side, obviously where the consequences are dramatic and you have extremely high conviction that you are right, you actually can’t

The self.

The strange loop of us thinking about our own consciousness in relation to others.

ease. If you want a successful business, relationship, or anything that is out of the norm, you must fundamentally change the goals your mind operates on by changing who you are.

And feel it all. Feel the anticipation of the risk. Feel the pre-risk cringe. Then, during the risk, and after, take a deep breath and feel that too.

You’ll become familiar with those feelings and, believe it or not, you’ll start to enjoy them. Even the ones you think of as unpleasant. Because feeling is what tells you you’re alive.

You know that

ore often than not, our fear doesn’t help us avoid the feelings; it simply subjects us to them for an agonizingly long time. We feel the suffering of procrastination, or the frustration of a stuck relationship. I know partnerships that drag along painfully for years because no one is willing to speak about the elephant in the room. Taking risks,

Nature vs Nurture — “the relative importance of an individual’s innate qualities as compared to an individual’s personal experiences in causing individual differences, especially in behavioral traits.”

Motivation often comes after starting. Find a way to start small. Objects in motion tend to stay in motion.