psychology

The self.

The strange loop of us thinking about our own consciousness in relation to others.

The stage you are in determines much of what you notice in reality and the opportunities available to you.

And the higher stages you reach, the more you can tap into the stages beneath, meaning you have both the ability and wisdom to spot opportunities for varied versions of success and achieve them with grace as you move up the spiral.

The question

men’s biggest problem is, likewise, a feeling—an unreachable itch, or a marrow-deep belief—that men should still rank above women in the social hierarchy, just not as much as before. This belief may be misguided or unconscious, but it is nonetheless insuperable, and it must be accommodated, for the good of us all.

Ken Wilber’s Wake up, Clean up, Grow up framework for human development.

Wake up meaning becoming aware of your true nature beyond the ego—accessing states of consciousness beyond ordinary waking awareness.

Clean up meaning psychological healing through shadow work—addressing unconscious or repressed aspects of yourself that are causing unnecessary

And feel it all. Feel the anticipation of the risk. Feel the pre-risk cringe. Then, during the risk, and after, take a deep breath and feel that too.

You’ll become familiar with those feelings and, believe it or not, you’ll start to enjoy them. Even the ones you think of as unpleasant. Because feeling is what tells you you’re alive.

You know that

that human value systems or worldviews (which influence how we interpret the world and make decisions… in other words, our operating system for reality) evolves through stages in an upward spiral.

These stages are the structure of how we think.

Each of us as individuals move up the spiral as we age and develop ourselves.

But this doesn’t only apply to

The modern understanding of a career in most knowledge work fields involves a non-trivial amount of sacrifice. You are expected to pay your dues, work your way up, and ride out the rough patches. Endurance is key. If you stick it out long enough, there’s something great on the other side — primarily security. Even in jobs where management is less

ore often than not, our fear doesn’t help us avoid the feelings; it simply subjects us to them for an agonizingly long time. We feel the suffering of procrastination, or the frustration of a stuck relationship. I know partnerships that drag along painfully for years because no one is willing to speak about the elephant in the room. Taking risks,