psychology

Marriage ends up as a hopeful, generous, infinitely kind gamble taken by two people who don’t know yet who they are or who the other might be, binding themselves to a future they cannot conceive of and have carefully avoided investigating.

Meaning, when you understand what stage you’re in and the exact “conditions” you need to make progress, what seems impossible now becomes inevitable.

Your mind literally reconstructs how it processes reality.

For the first time since his creation man will be faced with his real, his permanent problem – how to use his freedom from pressing economic cares, how to occupy the leisure, which science and compound interest will have won for him, to live wisely and agreeably and well.

What if we all lived life like a surfer on a wave?

The answer that kept coming to me was that we would take more risks.

Makers vs Manager’s Schedule — “When you’re operating on the maker’s schedule, meetings are a disaster.” (related: Deep Work)

the agency we can actively assert over our own futures, which is fundamentally usurped by predictive, data-driven systems

One of the facts of modern life is that a relatively small class of people works very long hours and earns good money for its efforts. Nearly a third of college-educated American men, for example, work more than 50 hours a week. Some professionals do twice that amount, and elite lawyers can easily work 70 hours a week almost every week of the year.

biggest red flag is just how fast everything is happening. What relationship therapists say is that healthy love has room to breathe.

Once you are stretched between two opposite poles (your old way of life and the new approach you want to take), you will encounter obstacles on the path.

If you are an aspiring writer, you may fall into the trap of perfectionism.

You start projects and then quit because they are never good enough.

With this specific obstacle, you would need to reframe