psychology

You can take the same approach to your work, to your goals, and to your legacy. By combining these two ideas — the consistency of “10 years of silence” and the focus of “deliberate practice” — you can blow past most people.

Arguing from First Principles — “A first principle is a basic, foundational, self-evident proposition or assumption that cannot be deduced from any other proposition or assumption.” (related: dimensionality reduction; orthogonality; “Reasonable minds can disagree” if underlying premises differ.)

ore often than not, our fear doesn’t help us avoid the feelings; it simply subjects us to them for an agonizingly long time. We feel the suffering of procrastination, or the frustration of a stuck relationship. I know partnerships that drag along painfully for years because no one is willing to speak about the elephant in the room. Taking risks,

Our jobs have become prisons from which we don’t want to escape

Key Characteristics of Love Bombing

• Gushing compliments or ‘soulmate’ talk very early on

• Lavish gifts or grand gestures that feel out of proportion

• Constant texting or pressuring to always be available

• Pushing for big commitments quickly (moving in, future plans, saying “I love you” fast)

• Possessiveness, but presented as concern or

Change must be possible if you want to reach the next stage.

You need either the skill acquisition, resources, or environment that allows you to see the potential for change.

This corresponds to the concept of “horizontal development” in Susanne Greuter’s ego development theory.

In order to move up vertically (to new stages) one must acquire a

“Radical candor is humble, it’s helpful, it’s immediate, it’s in person — in private if it’s criticism and in public if it’s praise — and it doesn’t personalize.”

I can give you examples and processes, but if you don’t have the ability to understand where you are and who you are, those won’t serve you much.

The path will be confusing.

It’s not supposed to make sense just yet.

When you’re doing something new, you aren’t supposed to be anything other than lost because you’re flailing in the middle of the ocean