psychology

Key Characteristics of Love Bombing

• Gushing compliments or ‘soulmate’ talk very early on

• Lavish gifts or grand gestures that feel out of proportion

• Constant texting or pressuring to always be available

• Pushing for big commitments quickly (moving in, future plans, saying “I love you” fast)

• Possessiveness, but presented as concern or

Life is giving you a gift. The healthy dynamic tension required to bring a new level of mastery out of you.

When you’re engaged at work, fully engage, for defined periods of time. When you’re renewing, truly renew. Make waves. Stop living your life in the gray zone.

when you understand what stage you’re in and the exact “conditions” you need to make progress, what seems impossible now becomes inevitable.

Your mind literally reconstructs how it processes reality.

The single most important thing a boss can do, Scott has learned, is focus on guidance : giving it, receiving it, and encouraging it. Guidance, which is fundamentally just praise and criticism, is usually called “feedback,” but feedback is screechy and makes us want to put our hands over our ears. Guidance is something most of us long for.

eliminate the opposing forces. Simplify your life, learn how to say no, change your environment, reduce the number of responsibilities that you take on, and otherwise eliminate the forces that are holding you back.

80% of living the life you want boils down to creating your own goals while most people are mindless slaves to society’s goals.

Arguing from First Principles — “A first principle is a basic, foundational, self-evident proposition or assumption that cannot be deduced from any other proposition or assumption.” (related: dimensionality reduction; orthogonality; “Reasonable minds can disagree” if underlying premises differ.)

IQ vs EQ — “IQ is a total score derived from one of several standardized tests designed to assess human intelligence.” “EQ is the capacity of individuals to recognize their own, and other people’s emotions, to discriminate between different feelings and label them appropriately, and to use emotional information to guide thinking and behavior.”