psychology

These are the 4 “phases” to expect as you move from one stage to another:

• Alpha – Life is good and normal. There is order.

• Beta – Doubts arise as you enter a new phase. Doing the same thing only makes it worse.

• Gamma – You feel lost. Things are chaotic and turbulent. This is where you can get trapped and feel like there’s nowhere to go.

• Delta –

Phases of Love Bombing Idealization Phase

This is the “wow” stage. You’re praised, adored, and told you’re unlike anyone else (well, you are unlike anyone else, but still). Things feel effortless with this person, and they might say things like “I’ve never felt this way before” after only a few dates. It can feel magical, but it’s also moving at a

Your purpose isn’t what you are building, something you find, or a career path that you create.

YOU as a person, are your purpose.

Our jobs have become prisons from which we don’t want to escape

Loyalists vs Mercenaries — “There are highly loyal teams that can withstand almost anything and remain steadfastly behind their leader. And there are teams that are entirely mercenary and will walk out without thinking twice about it.”

So often we spend life simply existing, but to live is the rarest thing in the world.

Marriage ends up as a hopeful, generous, infinitely kind gamble taken by two people who don’t know yet who they are or who the other might be, binding themselves to a future they cannot conceive of and have carefully avoided investigating.

The single most important thing a boss can do, Scott has learned, is focus on guidance : giving it, receiving it, and encouraging it. Guidance, which is fundamentally just praise and criticism, is usually called “feedback,” but feedback is screechy and makes us want to put our hands over our ears. Guidance is something most of us long for.

Words make our reality and make our universe real.