what even is perfectionism??
boy, this single word sure does mean a lot of things to a lot of people, huh?
by rob hardy · updated 10d ago
what even is perfectionism??
boy, this single word sure does mean a lot of things to a lot of people, huh?
by rob hardy · updated 10d ago
rob hardy added 14d ago
As a unitary construct, perfectionism indiscriminately mingles idealism, introversion, preoccupation with one's flaws, fear of not being able to live up to others' expectations, and making unfair demands of others.
rob hardy added 11d ago
perfectionism is a personality trait in which we constantly see the gap between how things are and how they could be (in ourselves, our environment, our relationships, and the world), and feel the compulsive drive to close that gap with our actions. perfectionists can’t just let it be. they are driven to make things better, even at high personal co
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perfectionism encompasses the ability to look inward, and know without equivocation, that growing towards unmet potential is one of the primary aims of a human life.
rob hardy added 12d ago
Perfectionism represents the natural, innate, and healthy human impulse to align with our whole, complete selves. A restored perfectionist understands that it’s not that you long for some external thing or for yourself to be perfect, it’s that you long to feel whole and to help others feel whole.
rob hardy added 14d ago
Perfection is a paradox—you can never become perfect, and you already are perfect. A perfectionist in an adaptive mindset believes both those statements are true. A perfectionist in a maladaptive mindset believes both those statements are false.
rob hardy added 14d ago
A perfectionist in a maladaptive mindset feels as if they already “lost” at being whole, good enough, or acceptable as they are. Maladaptive perfectionists strive to achieve goals (including interpersonal goals like people-pleasing) in the hope that others don’t feel empty-handed in their presence.
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