Relationships

Some years back my wife and I got into the habit of asking each other ‘do you want comfort or solutions’ when the other was having a bad time. That one sentence can save us from an argument 9/10 times.

it can take just a minute or five to send a friend a text or a voice memo that will mean the world to them, that will store ur love in their heart for a long, long time

how about you share what’s really upsetting you instead of acting distant and nonchalant

Conflict-avoidance = not understanding the language of conflict. Like any skill, navigating tension takes practice. 1) Stay in wonder, don't assume things about the situation 2) Aim for connection, not control 3) Express needs, not demands 4) Don't compromise on your truth

social theory: the best way to make new friends is to invite people to do an activity that will occupy enough of their brain capacity such that their defenses will be down and they’ll be a more open version of themselves

Here are (some) steps founders can take to get reporters to write about their companies (a thread). (Caveat: this thread is not exhaustive and really applies only to me)

I meet a lot of people searching for something (career, relationship, etc). And yet, when it’s put in front of them, they won’t pursue it because they fear pain (getting hurt, failure, etc.). So they unconsciously (and expensively) trade self protection for misery.

The health of a relationship depends on the amount of uncomfortable conversations people are willing to have.

Relationship tip: when your partner makes an awful but innocent mistake (leaves their phone in the cab, forgets their passport when heading to the airport for an international flight, drops and shatters a beloved item, gets in a fender bender, etc.), don't get mad at them. It… Show more

Conventional wisdom says "relationships matter most in life" and then conveniently leaves out that your relationship with yourself is the greatest predictor of your relationship with others.