The Autonomy of Monogamy

Relationships are like gazing into clear, bottomless pools of water. Look hard enough and you’ll meet the eyes of your own reflection. Stare into the soul of someone else long enough, and you’ll fall deeper into the abyss of yourself. The more you love the person in front of you, the more you understand yourself.

Marriage isn’t a personal growth hack designed to fuel my journey to self-actualization; but it won’t strip me of my unique self, either. It is something quieter. Stronger. Like bedrock. A union of two souls. It encourages, supports, challenges, forgives, and most importantly, makes me more of who I am, not less. Marriage supports union and uniquen... See more

Marriage is one of the most unnatural decisions a human can make. It’s a continuous act of self-denial in our continuous search for self-fulfillment. For the rest of my life, I’m choosing to come second. Life no longer consists of just me. Every thought, every word, every action now prioritizes another person. Like I said. Unnatural. So unnatural, ... See more