love and dating

The irony of organizing your life around mistake-avoidance is that, rather than making you feel calmer, it keeps you in an anxious state, ratcheting up the stakes of your life until you’re moving through it like you would a decision tree, each notable occurrence redirecting you toward a different destination. We’re meant to be. Wait no, we’re... See more

“The thinking part of you can tell you that a decision has been made, but it’s not the part of you which decides things.”

The seeds of intimacy are time and repetition. We choose each other again and again, and so create a community of two.

hers is the right attitude: you do not like a category. You like individuals. And you’re not born knowing which kind.

I believe deeply in something like soulmates - a real, mutual, sustaining love. That’s the dream, of course. But the search is hard, as anything worthwhile tends to be, and we have to keep trying.

I think heartbreak deserves less caution than most of us assume. Because love, even when it doesn’t last, is still worth the price of entry. It’s proof... See more