love and dating

hers is the right attitude: you do not like a category. You like individuals. And you’re not born knowing which kind.

We are a living record of every interaction that fate has had us bear witness to. Love is not just a chance encounter that we hope to come across once or twice in our lives, it's the nuance that shapes the hidden layers of our story. Meaning care, or lack thereof, will manifest in varying aspects of our day to day.

Why did we start to... See more

A great relationship is not only finding the person you have fun with, but also finding the person you want to be bored with. The beauty of long-term relationships is often hidden in boring, ordinary moments.

Ideally, the next fall is the last one and it lands somewhere soft.

Writer Heidi Priebe on love and grief:

"As long as there is love, there will be grief. The grief of time passing, of life moving on half-finished, of empty spaces that were once bursting with the laughter and energy of people we loved.

As long as there is love there will be grief because grief is love's natural continuation. It shows up in the... See more

Looking for love sounds more like chasing the high of an extreme sport, trust falling with someone you don’t really know like that. It demands exacting reciprocity, extreme vulnerability. It brings out people’s basest and most primal instincts and a frightening desire to merge into someone else. When the girlies on TikTok talk about dating, they... See more

If someone likes you best when you are vague, it means they fell in love with what they painted over you, not the actual contours of your selfhood. So when you begin to articulate your values, preferences, boundaries, they may pull away, because they never met you in the first place. The work of becoming specific, then, is also an act of... See more

I believe deeply in something like soulmates - a real, mutual, sustaining love. That’s the dream, of course. But the search is hard, as anything worthwhile tends to be, and we have to keep trying.

I think heartbreak deserves less caution than most of us assume. Because love, even when it doesn’t last, is still worth the price of entry. It’s proof... See more