love and dating

And it doesn’t just stay as language. It begins to structure behaviour. For some Gen Z women, opting out of dating altogether has become less a personal decision and more a shared posture, a quiet refusal to participate in a system that feels increasingly transactional. Others, as podcaster Charli Chats points out, feel reluctant to leave even... See more

There is a trope in romance that when you meet the person you are supposed to be with, you can talk about anything. You can apparently inverse that too: if you talk about anything that pops into your mind, you can tell if you're supposed to be with the person by judging their reaction.

I believe deeply in something like soulmates - a real, mutual, sustaining love. That’s the dream, of course. But the search is hard, as anything worthwhile tends to be, and we have to keep trying.

I think heartbreak deserves less caution than most of us assume. Because love, even when it doesn’t last, is still worth the price of entry. It’s proof... See more

Love is the drug, friendship the cure.

A growing number of younger people are abstaining—not only from alcohol, but also from sex. Romantic relationships, too, seem to be losing their cultural primacy. Single-person households are rising, and the notion of heterofatalism is becoming increasingly mainstream, especially among women. In this shifting... See more

We blunt romance and passion with this constant calculation of risk, this paranoid scanning for threats, and by holding back to avoid being hurt. We encourage each other to be emotionally absent, unfazed, uncaring. We even call it empowerment! It’s not. It’s neuroticism. I think we are a generation absolutely terrified of getting hurt and doing all... See more

Has love fallen into the realm of planned obsolescence? Where beautifully packaged, terribly fragile emotions are evidence of having reached the summit of our aspirations, only to be left yearning, craving that next big hit? Desire is the newest addiction. The feeling of “want” being much more thrilling than the comfort of being satisfied. Craving... See more