love and dating

“The thinking part of you can tell you that a decision has been made, but it’s not the part of you which decides things.”

Presence is not a feature. It is a choice made moment by moment by someone who could leave but chooses to stay.

The entire question speaks to how good we’ve gotten at Hinge. Dating Intentions? Who has ‘dating intentions’??? You write poems about dating intentions or watch movies or wordlessly acknowledge them in bed with your girlfriend…you don't click a box!!!

to feel intensely is not a liability, that to be moved by a sentence, a glance, a flower is not proof of naïveté but evidence that we are still alive to textures algorithms cannot catalogue.

A great relationship is not only finding the person you have fun with, but also finding the person you want to be bored with. The beauty of long-term relationships is often hidden in boring, ordinary moments.

To be known is to be seen. You bring out a different side in yourself when you’re with that person. Some people make you more talkative, more secure, more experimental. In Winterson’s The Passion, Henri says this about love but I think it’s just as resonant of friendship: It is as though I wrote in a foreign language that I am suddenly able to... See more