love and dating
Love embraces slowness, likely even demands it. So why are we all in such a rush?
The seeds of intimacy are time and repetition. We choose each other again and again, and so create a community of two.
Esther Perel • Mating in Captivity
Being a romantic means being brave. To offer something to someone, with hope — the hope that they will like it. To show someone who you are by making something that only you could make. To be extra, to choose to build something extra. To manifest things that are strange and unexpected and surprising…
These acts can feel wildly vulnerable and... See more
These acts can feel wildly vulnerable and... See more
Falling in love seems to happen mostly either by a process of osmosis or simple familiarity (and a lot of waiting) or by setting intentions of seriousness and weeding out partners who don’t share them. Sometimes, it happens randomly. Sparks fly. You’re reminded why there’s so much poetry, so much music, so many stories, so many cautionary tales... See more
modern love dictated by reality, rather than cultivated through serendipity
Has love fallen into the realm of planned obsolescence? Where beautifully packaged, terribly fragile emotions are evidence of having reached the summit of our aspirations, only to be left yearning, craving that next big hit? Desire is the newest addiction. The feeling of “want” being much more thrilling than the comfort of being satisfied. Craving... See more
I Went to One of Tinder’s In-Person Dating Events. What I Saw Will Haunt All My Days.
Magdalene Taylorslate.com
Dating apps try to hop on the growing apathy towards dating apps by hosting IRL events. Does it work or doesn’t? Will this year be the fall of dating apps? Will a new dating platform (used loosely) emerge?
Writer Heidi Priebe on love and grief:
"As long as there is love, there will be grief. The grief of time passing, of life moving on half-finished, of empty spaces that were once bursting with the laughter and energy of people we loved.
As long as there is love there will be grief because grief is love's natural continuation. It shows up in the... See more
"As long as there is love, there will be grief. The grief of time passing, of life moving on half-finished, of empty spaces that were once bursting with the laughter and energy of people we loved.
As long as there is love there will be grief because grief is love's natural continuation. It shows up in the... See more
3-2-1: On the source of inspiration, the bond between love and grief, and the power of hope
The type of person I’m assuming we’re looking for here is 1) someone that you will find fascinating to talk to after you’ve talked for 20,000 hours, 2) you feel comfortable with them talking through the hardest and most painful decisions you will face in your life, and 3) the conversation is wildly generative for both of you, in that it brings you... See more