love and dating
“romance is increasingly shaped by economic pressure and platform life. Dating here is no longer imagined primarily through consumption or leisure, but through productivity, hustle, and shared survival.”
The swag gap became notorious when a certain tabloid photo of Justin and Hailey Bieber dropped: Hailey strutting ahead in a bright-red minidress, her hair pinned into a bun, the shimmer in her eye shadow and necklace catching the light; Justin slouching behind in a heather-gray sweat suit, the zipper halfway down and no shirt underneath, his face... See more
archive.ph
to feel intensely is not a liability, that to be moved by a sentence, a glance, a flower is not proof of naïveté but evidence that we are still alive to textures algorithms cannot catalogue.
Romanticism Is Not A Weakness
To be known is to be seen. You bring out a different side in yourself when you’re with that person. Some people make you more talkative, more secure, more experimental. In Winterson’s The Passion, Henri says this about love but I think it’s just as resonant of friendship: It is as though I wrote in a foreign language that I am suddenly able to... See more
modern friendship
We blunt romance and passion with this constant calculation of risk, this paranoid scanning for threats, and by holding back to avoid being hurt. We encourage each other to be emotionally absent, unfazed, uncaring. We even call it empowerment! It’s not. It’s neuroticism. I think we are a generation absolutely terrified of getting hurt and doing all... See more
Freya India • Risk-Aversion Is Killing Romance - By Freya India - GIRLS
I’m always thinking about that Raúl Zurita quote that people put on Tumblr: Toda declaración de amor es urgente porque vamos a morir [every declaration of love is urgent because we’re going to die]. In real life, obviously, you cannot declare love to just anyone. You have to go with the flow, wait on other people’s time, accept their ambivalence,... See more
hers is the right attitude: you do not like a category. You like individuals. And you’re not born knowing which kind.
Henrik Karlsson • Looking for Alice
Has love fallen into the realm of planned obsolescence? Where beautifully packaged, terribly fragile emotions are evidence of having reached the summit of our aspirations, only to be left yearning, craving that next big hit? Desire is the newest addiction. The feeling of “want” being much more thrilling than the comfort of being satisfied. Craving... See more