fuck this hits so hard. "The process of becoming yourself is not a corporate desk job, and it is not homework. You do not have to treat your flaws like action items that must be systematically targeted in order to receive a return on investment."
While we’re focusing on being the best possible Protagonist in our respective inner stories, everyone else is seeing only how we’re doing in our other, more public role. If you think about what people are admired and remembered for, it’s always for the kind of Other Person they were.