Perfectionism often wears the mask of high standards , ambition , discipline. It parades itself as virtue, a propriety. In reality, it is rarely about the pursuit of excellence but the terror of being perceived as inadequate.
When it's worry time in our house we have a script. I say, I'm going to share a worry with you. And then CW listens and says, I acknowledge your worry and understand how it is making you feel. And then we go to sleep and wake up and get back to work.