intimacy

The devotional lover offers selfless service, not because they are a martyr but because they set themself free from needing anything to change before they are willing to live as love.

One of the privileges of being on our own is therefore the sincere impression that we are really quite easy to live with.

This is the secret that all passionate lovers know: In the moment of true ecstasy, we die to ourselves in love, and this surrender itself is oursweetest pleasure. Surrender of self into love is the basis for Intimate Communion.

Three key lessons I have learned are: (1) the work is about relationship; (2) everyone has loving ancestors; and (3) relating to our ancestors is entirely normal.

Phases of Love Bombing Idealization Phase

This is the “wow” stage. You’re praised, adored, and told you’re unlike anyone else (well, you are unlike anyone else, but still). Things feel effortless with this person, and they might say things like “I’ve never felt this way before” after only a few dates. It can feel magical, but it’s also moving at a

Good sex consists of two people taking full responsibility for meeting their own needs. It has no goal. It is free of agendas and expectations. Rather than being a performance, it is an unfolding of sexual energy.

Key Characteristics of Love Bombing

• Gushing compliments or ‘soulmate’ talk very early on

• Lavish gifts or grand gestures that feel out of proportion

• Constant texting or pressuring to always be available

• Pushing for big commitments quickly (moving in, future plans, saying “I love you” fast)

• Possessiveness, but presented as concern or protectiv