intimacy

What we really seek is familiarity — which may well complicate any plans we might have had for happiness. We are looking to recreate, within our adult relationships, the feelings we knew so well in childhood. The love most of us will have tasted early on was often confused with other, more destructive dynamics: feelings of wanting to help an adult

Three key lessons I have learned are: (1) the work is about relationship; (2) everyone has loving ancestors; and (3) relating to our ancestors is entirely normal.

This is the secret that all passionate lovers know: In the moment of true ecstasy, we die to ourselves in love, and this surrender itself is oursweetest pleasure. Surrender of self into love is the basis for Intimate Communion.

The devotional lover offers selfless service, not because they are a martyr but because they set themself free from needing anything to change before they are willing to live as love.

Marriage ends up as a hopeful, generous, infinitely kind gamble taken by two people who don’t know yet who they are or who the other might be, binding themselves to a future they cannot conceive of and have carefully avoided investigating.

Communicate Verbally Instead of Non-Verbally

Introverts tend to be more inward-focused, preferring quieter environments and smaller social interactions to recharge their energy. They often find solace in solitude, where they can process their thoughts and feelings without the distractions of the outside world. Extroverts, on the other hand, thrive on social interaction and external stimulatio

The failure of one particular partner to save us from our grief and melancholy is not an argument against that person and no sign that a union deserves to fail or be upgraded.