building communities

To find a good relationship, you do not start by saying, “I want a relationship that looks like this”—that would be starting in the wrong end, by defining form. Instead you say, “I’m just going to pay attention to what happens when I hang out with various people and iterate toward something that feels alive”—you start from the context.

We often keep our connections close to our chests, guarding them like precious resources, believing that by holding onto them, we’re preserving their value. But here’s the irony: by doing that, we’re actually diminishing their value. Networks don’t thrive in isolation; they come alive when the number of connections—the nodes within them—increases.

Getting found is about being findable.

networks are heat-seeking missiles for value. Provide the value, and the network is there.