One thing that almost always compels us towards action, or at least deeper reflection, is pain. When we begin to suffer, we start looking for the lesson that will lessen our suffering. This ‘hunger’ for an antidote helps us learn quickly. This is fairly well-understood: when pain gets sufficiently intense that it demands most of our conscious... See more
I think this might actually be a bell hooks definition:being invested in someone else’s spiritual growth. Also, Ann says that showing up is 100 percent of the work. Love is showing up.
Often when people are stuck in life it’s because they’re holding out for the delusional possibility of a costless way of getting what they want, instead of just paying the cost
Attention is the beginning of love.
So many people, adults and children, have never experienced having someone give them their undivided, focused, and attuned attention; they have not experienced love, fully.
And that’s a big reason people are broken.
The great Borges thought it best to look upon our broken inner state as one of life’s great opportunities—to prove ourselves deserving of the blood pulsing through our veins. “Everything that happens,” he wrote, “including humiliations, misfortunes, embarrassments, all is given like clay,” so that we may “make from the miserable circumstances of... See more