Chubmeister 5000

Still, once you internalize the “Do ten times as much” norm, you are in for some soul-searching. If you want to learn a foreign language, you need to budget about two thousand hours. If you want to master a technical subject, you need to budget about five thousand hours. If you want your kids to be pious Orthodox Jews, move to an Orthodox... See more

No matter the circumstances, we’re called to joy.

And the minute that you understand that you can poke life, and actually something will, you know, if you push in, something will pop out the other side, that you can change it. You can mold it.

In love, I recently realized that the thing I value most is emotional connection. Connection is of course ineffable, and for a long time my lack of vocabulary prevented me from understanding how much I needed it. It’s that warm, fluid feeling, that sense of boundarylessness between two people, the possibility of total understanding. I care about a... See more

Accepting who you are doesn’t mean you should stay in situations that hurt you. I advise people, both strangers and close friends, to leave relationships when I think their care is unreciprocated or they clearly are unfulfilled. I think that if you find yourself consistently directing your love towards places or people that don’t love you back, you... See more

And when you stop fragmenting internally, you also stop self-sabotaging. It fills you with enthusiasm (which, by the way, literally means to be inspired by the gods) and encourages you to look forward. Hope gives you the courage to lose sight of the shore so you can swim for new horizons.1 Hope gives your soul opposable thumbs to have a better grip... See more