Batch Batchelder

A secure attachment combined with the cultivation of competency builds an internal locus of control, the key factor in healthy coping throughout life.7 Securely attached children learn what makes them feel good; they discover what makes them (and others) feel bad, and they acquire a sense of agency: that their actions can change how they feel and

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Babies with insecure anxious attachment try to meet their caregiver’s needs so their caregiver can be regulated enough to then be present and meet the baby’s needs. If a baby can’t receive the external regulation they need, they are going to adjust themselves so that at least their caregiver can be present- this let’s the baby be seen!!!

Saint Augustine on doing what you can for who you know:

"Since you cannot do good to all, you are to pay special attention to those who, by the accidents of time, or place, or circumstances, are brought into closer connection with you."

Source: De Doctrina Christiana ​

There are very few men of genius.

But we need all we can find. Almost without exception, they are disagreeable. Don’t destroy them. They lay golden eggs.

When you know what you want, most choices eliminate themselves.

Short-term results come from intensity.

Long-term results come from consistency.

Robert Louis Stevenson on living one day at a time:

"Anyone can carry his burden, however hard, until nightfall. Anyone can do his work, however hard, for one day. Anyone can live sweetly, patiently, lovingly, purely, till the sun goes down. And this is all life really means."

Source: An Apology for Idlers ​​​

Feeding people half-truths or bullshit to make them feel better (which is almost always about making ourselves feel more comfortable) is unkind.

Not getting clear with a colleague about your expectations because it feels too hard, yet holding them accountable or blaming them for not delivering is unkind.

Talking about people rather than to them is... See more

Those who need reasons to feel good never run out of needs.