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“since one must exercise control over one's life to be autonomous, autonomy is something that a person accomplishes, not something that happens to a person.”
David Brooks • 71 highlights
amazon.comWe see ourselves as others see us, and when we feel invisible, well, we have a tendency to fall to pieces.
"When I look I am seen, so I exist."
-Donald Wincott
He can only discover what he feels by seeing it reflected back. If the infant is seen in a way that makes him feel he exists, in a way that confirms him, he is free to go on looking.
We see ourselves first through the eyes of our parents, in the reflections we get from them. It’s as if they hold up a mirror for us, and we see our own face in that mirror. If the mirror is clear, we see ourselves clearly. If the mirror is distorted, we see a distorted reflection of our self.