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How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen
David Brooks • 71 highlights
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How can you feel confident in making a choice for yourself, when self is in question?
Sylvia Plath’s fig tree metaphor poignantly depicts the immobility that strikes when faced with our own sense of agency.
When our sense of self is not mirrored and attuned to as we develop, our personalities and way of relating to the world can feel fragmented and disorganized.
We see ourselves as others see us, and when we feel invisible, well, we have a tendency to fall to pieces.
David Brooks • How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen
He can only discover what he feels by seeing it reflected back. If the infant is seen in a way that makes him feel he exists, in a way that confirms him, he is free to go on looking.
Adam Phillips • Winnicott
D.W. Winnicott Quotes (Author of Playing and Reality)
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This is the great, unspoken truth of our age. If you do not post, you do not exist. If you are not constantly reinforcing your presence, your relevance, your desirability, then you are slipping, shrinking, becoming unimportant. It is not enough to simply be anymore, you must be perceived, and preferably, admired.
"But maybe you don’t need to be explainable. Maybe the most interesting perspectives come from being willing to occupy a difficult-to-define place, even if it means sacrificing others' understanding of you. The challenge then becomes committing to occupy that place far longer than most feel comfortable — long enough to cultivate a voice out of your... See more
“since one must exercise control over one's life to be autonomous, autonomy is something that a person accomplishes, not something that happens to a person.”