fig tree metaphor
identity loss, attachment trauma, sylvia plath
fig tree metaphor
“since one must exercise control over one's life to be autonomous, autonomy is something that a person accomplishes, not something that happens to a person.”
D.W. Winnicott Quotes (Author of Playing and Reality)
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How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen
David Brooks • 71 highlights
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We see ourselves as others see us, and when we feel invisible, well, we have a tendency to fall to pieces.
David Brooks • How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen
"When I look I am seen, so I exist."
-Donald Wincott
He can only discover what he feels by seeing it reflected back. If the infant is seen in a way that makes him feel he exists, in a way that confirms him, he is free to go on looking.
Adam Phillips • Winnicott
"What the baby sees when he turns his gaze towards his mother's face? Generally, what he sees is himself."
-Donald Winnicott
When our sense of self is not mirrored and attuned to as we develop, our personalities and way of relating to the world can feel fragmented and disorganized.
"But maybe you don’t need to be explainable. Maybe the most interesting perspectives come from being willing to occupy a difficult-to-define place, even if it means sacrificing others' understanding of you. The challenge then becomes committing to occupy that place far longer than most feel comfortable — long enough to cultivate a voice out of your... See more