You’re a person, you’re not something that can be moulded into this aesthetic box. It’s really important to know those who came before you and why you like what you like, instead of just being fed information very quickly and saying ‘This is my personality now’. Your personality shouldn’t be built upon trends. You are the person and you can add to ... See more

I know that almost nobody hears too many sincere compliments. Compliment them to their face. Then, compliment them behind their back. Practice naming pleasant feelings you have about people, as soon as they bubble up, in the moment: “It’s always fun to see you.” Lower the resistance around this to zero.

Listening is a neglected social skill. But I know that an even more neglected social skill is candor.

I know how to spot real confidence. Look for people who are fluid with status—who allow themselves to be the butt of a joke, or accept criticism, but also avoid false modesty, and inhabit the spotlight when it falls on them. One might call this a balance between dignity and humility. Pro tip: people who always cling to high status aren’t confident ... See more

I know that sometimes, persistence is not a virtue. I would trade my other abilities to be an exceptional songwriter. I gave it a serious enough try to know that I don’t have the knack, for years, and I’m not interested in being publicly mediocre at the performing arts. My life is incalculably better for having let the dream go. The world will be h... See more

Twitter and Square CEO Jack Dorsey explained why succinctly in an email he sent out to the whole company. "If you have to use someone else’s name or authority to get a point across, there is little merit to the point (you might not believe it yoursel), If you believe something ro be correct, focus on showing your work to prove it. Authority derives

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People Can Only Meet You As Deeply As They’ve Met Themselves.

Being your own hype woman isn’t about arrogance or bragging. It’s about reclaiming your power, owning your story, and refusing to downplay your brilliance just to make others comfortable. It’s about looking in the mirror and giving yourself the pep talks you need, the ones that push you to keep going, to dream bigger, to take that leap.