Molly Simpson
@spagmol
thinker, feeler, third-wheeler
collecting dots here, connecting them there ↓
Molly Simpson
@spagmol
thinker, feeler, third-wheeler
collecting dots here, connecting them there ↓
relationships are inherently a two-person game, so suddenly you’re subject to someone’s process—how they communicate, how they spend their time, who they like, what they value. And you have to decide if you like it, and more than that, are capable of adapting to it.
📚 on communication as a superpower
When I say I want to be zen at all costs, I don’t mean that I don’t plan to suffer. To be human is to feel pain. But how you stay with it is what makes all the difference. I can compromise on a lot of things, but I can’t change the shape of my soul. Not everything that is what I want is going to be what you want. But talking about it is where we find the overlap.
I never knew how to communicate before, even though I talked all the time. Saying words is one thing, locating the deepest thing that matters is another. The one simple trick of articulating the truest thing I feel has taken me a lifetime to master. No other ability feels as important.
The more we care about something — our money, our careers, our relationships, our self-image — the more serious we tend to become. We strive for more certainty, structure, direction, and order so that we’ll feel safe and have a “competitive advantage” in the world. But here’s the cruel paradox: the more we tend to care about something, the more we
... See more