decisions vs choices: what's the diff?

you’re making choices all the time

but that doesn’t mean you’re owning them

where we trip ourselves up is thinking that choices are something that can be “put off” to some future time — an imaginary place where we have all the information and the circumstances have aligned to make that choice the most obvious; the best, the only one. but choices exist here and now and believe it or not you’re making one right this minute.

Adult life, I’ve decided, is about cohesion. Which is to say it’s about conflict, trade-offs. The ability to acknowledge parts of your psyche you aren’t proud of. The idea that sometimes in life you have to make a choice, and the choice is not only not a perfect choice, but often not even a particularly moralchoice: that you can argue for it or

If you touch an idea too much without actually making it, just like a dough or plaster, it dies. I think it’s better to make and bake it and throw it away than to imagine how it would have worked or tasted. —Zeynab Izadyar

If you don’t know what to do...

Just do something, anything, but only that thing, for at least 5 minutes.

Decisions correspond to externally observable actions; choices are more internal and sensed.

Changing your mind can be a choice, but it’s not a decision. We don’t decide to change our minds; it’s more full-bodied than that. Changing our minds is a nuisance. It means rewiring countless associations and links between things, disconnecting and reconnecting dots.

We don’t decide to do this (why would we willingly, repeatedly put ourselves