decisions vs choices: what's the diff?
spag mol essay idea. something instinctive tells me they’re not the same thing, but it’s going to need further investigation.
decisions vs choices: what's the diff?
I've been thinking a lot about whether there is a difference between 'choices' and 'decisions'. We use them interchangeably, but I wonder if there's a distinction. Choices feel more instinctive, maybe even emotional; decisions seem more deliberate and agentic. In the context of your reflection, that might look like DECIDING how we show up, but only
... See moreWhat my friend says sometimes bewilders me because he looks like a thirsty person standing right in front of a glass of water, yet when you suggest maybe he should drink it, he goes, “No, can’t drink that. There is a wall in the way.”
No, there isn’t!!
This makes me realize that what I said earlier in this essay is not enough. You can’t simply list... See more
No, there isn’t!!
This makes me realize that what I said earlier in this essay is not enough. You can’t simply list... See more
Henrik Karlsson • An essay in which my friend feels stuck and I suggest relaxing some constraints
Between stimulus and response there is space. In that space we have the power to choose. In that choice is our growth and transformation.
(Victor Frankl)
“Ready” is not a feeling, it’s a decision. You might as well start doing exactly what you want—time will pass anyway.
Changing your mind can be a choice, but it’s not a decision. We don’t decide to change our minds; it’s more full-bodied than that. Changing our minds is a nuisance. It means rewiring countless associations and links between things, disconnecting and reconnecting dots.
We don’t decide to do this (why would we willingly, repeatedly put ourselves
“I think about decisions in three ways: hats, haircuts, and tattoos.
Most decisions are like hats. Try one and if you don’t like it, put it back and try another. The cost of a mistake is low, so move quickly and try a bunch of hats.
Some decisions are like haircuts. You can fix a bad one, but it won’t be quick and you might feel foolish for awhile.... See more
Most decisions are like hats. Try one and if you don’t like it, put it back and try another. The cost of a mistake is low, so move quickly and try a bunch of hats.
Some decisions are like haircuts. You can fix a bad one, but it won’t be quick and you might feel foolish for awhile.... See more
James Clear • 3-2-1: On hats, haircuts, and tattoos
Autonomy, as they see it, is different from independence. It’s not the rugged, go-it-alone, rely-on-nobody individualism of the American cowboy. It means acting with choice - which means we can be both autonomous and happily interdependent with others. And while the idea of independence has national and political reverberations, autonomy appears to... See more
Daniel H. Pink • Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us
optimise for autonomy versus freedom/independence (we all exist within a context)
I want to be on the hook for you.
I guess that’s what I’m saying.
I guess that’s what I’m saying.
The Horizontal Cult
Freedom to feel and experience the full spectrum of human experience. I don’t want to be arbitrarily chained down in anything I didn’t choose — ever.
(Molly Mielke on Audience of One)