Molly Simpson

you’re making choices all the time

but that doesn’t mean you’re owning them

where we trip ourselves up is thinking that choices are something that can be “put off” to some future time — an imaginary place where we have all the information and the circumstances have aligned to make that choice the most obvious; the best, the only one. but choices exist here and now and believe it or not you’re making one right this minute.

Adult life, I’ve decided, is about cohesion. Which is to say it’s about conflict, trade-offs. The ability to acknowledge parts of your psyche you aren’t proud of. The idea that sometimes in life you have to make a choice, and the choice is not only not a perfect choice, but often not even a particularly moralchoice: that you can argue for it or

"I am Me, and I hope to become Me more and more."

Letter to Rainer Maria Rilke (February 17, 1906)