Sublime

When parents are able to reliably respond to their child’s emotional and physical needs, that child is able to learn over time that what she feels can be communicated, and responded to.

Children need a balance of nurture and structure, and so do adults. In the process of learning to provide for our children, we need to learn better nurture and structure skills for ourselves as well.

When Heidi would instruct young Amber to “question authority,” as she often did, Amber heard only “trust your own feelings.”

Many of the challenges we face as parents result from the times when our kids aren’t in the flow, when they’re either too chaotic or too rigid. Your three-year-old won’t share his toy boat at the park? Rigidity. He erupts into crying, yelling, and throwing sand when his new friend takes the boat away? Chaos.

If you are one of the grown-ups who really want to know how to bring the best out of the children you are around, then you are not alone.

have had the privilege of helping many parents discover their own story as a major piece in the puzzle of their child’s behaviour.

If we give to our children because it feels good to us, but does not meet the child's needs, it is a message to our children that they count only as a reflection of us.

Mother is not doing her larger-than-life job as it needs to be done, children have significant deficits in their foundations.