How To Do The Work: Recognise Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self

recognised how his obsession with success helped him dissociate from his emotional world – how it allowed him to disconnect, just as he did in childhood.

majority of us feel unseen, unheard, and unloved and we carry this pain with us throughout our lives.

because you can’t point to a ‘before-and-after’ moment, it doesn’t mean you didn’t experience traumas and that those traumas didn’t create wounds that live on within you.

Your inability to move forward or make changes isn’t about you, it’s an extension of the conditioned patterns and core beliefs you developed in your childhood.

truth, the work is never done.

Give your inner child the gift of acknowledging its wounds.

accepting that his inner child will always be there cultivating an ongoing dialogue between his present self and his inner child.

Our real long-term goal is to find that security inside ourselves. Our work is to internalise the feeling of being good enough – a state of okayness that is not reliant on others.

romantic partners tend to activate our wounds at the most intense levels,

inner childlike part of each of us, when not acknowledged, can run rampant in our adult life, often reacting impulsively and selfishly.