Sublime

The need for belonging twists into a form of fearful pre-rejection with the person experiencing an anxious aversion to the presence of others.

It’s as though introverts feel less secure about the social world, so they prefer to invest more heavily in a few people whom they know really well and whom they can really rely on.

Use perspective-taking to build a healthy sense of belonging and interconnection with others in consciousness, in effect expanding the individual transcendent sense of self, me, into an interconnected sense of we.

Feeling is a key to our survival—not only in helping us learn about dangers but in guiding us to the sources of joy and fulfillment.

Those with higher agency in life show greater independence, assertiveness, and constructive use of anger; display less emotional distress and anxious attachment; and are embedded in more supportive social networks.30 Complementarily, those with higher communion are more comfortable with social relationships, are unlikely to experience problems when

those with greater self-complexity practiced more, regardless of what they felt or were told by the researchers. Those who scored lower on self-complexity practiced less, and it was more dependent on their mood and what the researchers told them. In other words, when everything around them was telling them they weren’t good enough, they listened.

The Truehome method focuses more on some levels than others in Dan McAdams’s three-tiered system of describing personality. Recall that Level 1 traits, such as sociability and curiosity, are the most superficial. Then as we get to know people better, we learn about their personal concerns (Level 2), and we may even glimpse their identities (Level

Becoming aware of how our self-story changes according to different situations helps us stay better connected with our transcendent self, and therefore with our ability to choose among possibilities about how we will be.