Sublime

helped people see that the experiences they’d been avoiding and the memories of painful experiences they sought to escape were painful and scary to them because they cared—they cared about living a life enriched by love; about being a nurturing person; about pursuing interests they found intrinsically engaging and meaningful, whether or not society

In effect, the “answer” the mind presents to the problem is to kill off the yearning to feel unless the feeling is good.

Practice “Just Because I Choose To”

This book will give you the skills and knowledge to do so. It’s based on a powerful psychological model known as Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT),

The first step for any of us is to recognize what negative responses we have in the present.

began to trust that I could do what I said I would do and that, in and of itself, was a huge benefit to me.

The Presence pivot redirects our yearning for orientation toward mindful focus on the here and now. The

The thing to watch for, in my opinion, is what strategy a person employs first when distressed and, if that one fails, what strategy the person switches to next. These are the person’s primary and secondary patterns.

Each of these steps is specific, measurable, attainable, results-focused, and time-bound.