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Personal limits are not about controlling or changing other people’s behavior. In fact, they’re not about other people at all. They’re about you, and what you need to do to take care of yourself.
Paul T. T. Mason • Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder
Knowing about the attachment styles empowers people to harness their biology to work for them rather than against them.
Amir Levine • Attached: Are you Anxious, Avoidant or Secure? How the science of adult attachment can help you find – and keep – love
This can be a lonely type of personality.
Arlan Hamilton • It's About Damn Time: How to Turn Being Underestimated into Your Greatest Advantage
Adams, William Lee. “The dark side of creativity: Depression + anxiety x madness = genius?” CNN. 2014.
Brianna Wiest • 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think
Boundaries are setting limits on what’s in our control—which is our own actions. Telling somebody else that their behavior is unacceptable is not setting a boundary, because you are leaving the situation in their control: they can choose whether they will change their behavior in response to your request (kudos to you for making a clear request!).
Eric Nehrlich • You Have A Choice: Beyond Hard Work To Meaningful Impact
“professional marriage”
Jennifer A. Kurth • The Inclusion Toolbox: Strategies and Techniques for All Teachers
The key is to remember that boundaries are an inside job. It becomes less about you waiting for the narcissistic person to honor a boundary and more about you setting one for yourself that you can honor.
Ramani Durvasula • It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People
setting a good example by meeting all of your agreements makes it harder for clients to rationalize their own bad behavior.
Jennifer Lawler • The Club Ed Guide to Starting and Running a Profitable Freelance Editing Business
An important step in giving up the fight for getting what you won’t from someone is to stop excusing their bad behavior toward you on the grounds of their allegedly diminished capacities, whatever those inadequacies might be. Be sure that you’re not arriving at this conclusion out of despair. Then hold the other person responsible, period.