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Children are the wildish nature,
Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estés • Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype
This is why I find it useful to ask my patients, “What was your ticket of admission in your family?” (In my childhood, Klara was the prodigy, Magda was the rebel, and I was the confidante. I was most valuable to my parents when I was a listener, a container for their feelings, when I was invisible.) Sure enough, at the table Gretchen was shy, Peter
... See moreEdith Eger • The Choice
“When the parent can’t put in the work to maintain the relationship, then the child has to. She does so by being a good girl. She does it by being precocious, by being intellectually mature. When she reaches the age of abstract thought, around age thirteen or fourteen, when these connections in the brain actually happen, all of a sudden she becomes
... See moreGabor Maté • When the Body Says No
When I explore with my clients their childhood histories, emerging most often are patterns of relationships that required the child to take care of the parent emotionally, if only by keeping her inmost feelings to herself so as not to burden the parent.
Gabor Maté • Scattered: How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About It
Mujeres que corren con los lobos (1998)
They're blind to a simple truth: complex minds can't develop on their own. If they could, feral children would be like any other. And minds don't grow the way weeds do, flourishing under indifferent attention; otherwise all children in orphanages would thrive. For a mind to even approach its full potential, it needs cultivation by other minds.
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... See moreThis can also be observed on a larger scale when parent-figures behave a certain way outside versus inside the home, training the child to see that humans can have “pseudoselves.” An example of this is family members who are constantly bickering or yelling inside the home but once in public speak and act lovingly or at least politely, upholding
... See moreNicole LePera • How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self
connecting with the Good Mother archetype, finding others who stand in for the Good Mother, and working through unresolved issues and unmet needs in primary relationships.
Jasmin Lee Cori MS LPC • The Emotionally Absent Mother: A Guide to Self-Healing and Getting the Love You Missed
The Parent ego state (P2) can be described as the stored collection of thoughts, feelings, and behaviour that the child has taken over from caregivers and other educators during his early years. The whole personality of the mother or father is taken in at that time: the behaviour, the statements made, but also non-verbal and emotional aspects. In
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