Scattered: How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About It
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Scattered: How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About It
If we can actively love, there will be no attention deficit and no disorder.
Gabor Maté • Scattered: How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About It
Adults with ADD face the most difficult task of all: learning how to be loving toward themselves. This is the greatest struggle because it requires that we gradually shed the defenses we have come to identify as the self and venture into new territory.
Gabor Maté • Scattered: How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About It
We don’t do our children any favors when we try to protect them from experiencing sadness or failure. What we really for want them when they feel sad is to be able to endure disappointment and hurt feelings, not to hide behind defenses, angry acting-out and driven behavior in order to avoid emotional distress. Not, in other words, for them to becom
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The medications, if taken, should be used with the specific purpose of reducing distractibility and improving concentration and focusing, not of changing people’s lives.
Gabor Maté • Scattered: How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About It
“Quite right,” he agreed. “How could you know?” I was spending all my waking hours, as he pointed out, stimulating myself with ceaseless activity, working overtime to keep my brain spinning, gorging it with mind candy—what exactly was I expecting to feel? Where did I leave even a small crack for feeling to seep through?
Gabor Maté • Scattered: How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About It
of the fever. For an addict, morality, truth, devotion to a partner and children can pale into abstraction.
Gabor Maté • Scattered: How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About It
The major effect was that I could not be present—in both senses of being at home or attentive to my family—whenever I was in the grip
Gabor Maté • Scattered: How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About It
The addiction is the repeated behavior engaged in despite the certainty that it harms oneself or others. Passion loves the goal or process that is its object (the painting one buys or the painting one does), but the real object of addiction is the thrill of plunging into the behavior, not the love of it. (The objective of the gambler is not winning
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Any passion can become an addiction. It’s simply a question of who is in charge: the individual or the behavior.