Sublime

As the therapist charged to help the pair move back into closeness, I usually make a determination whether the primary problem is the character of the cheater or the state of their union or both. It

own self-worth to continuous obsession with the children’s wellbeing as a means to earn approval and be “a good mother,” which in turn leads her to mature herself in some key areas, though not all. She may pressure her detached husband to change his behaviors and “become a better father,” but because he does not experience the emotional urgency in

We are wounded in relationship, and we need to heal in relationship.

Buber était un philosophe juif allemand qui est mort il y a environ cinquante ans, et dont le travail porte sur la rencontre véritable entre deux êtres : la relation du Je-Tu, une relation pleine et profondément réciproque, qui s’oppose à la relation du Je-Cela, laquelle néglige l’altérité de l’autre et utilise plus qu’elle ne rapproche. Cette idée

Therapists know the human heart, not primarily through books, but by being courageous about exploring their own nature. They may not share our fantasies exactly, but they accept that their own are as colourful and as complex. They don’t have our precise anxieties, but they know well enough the powerful and peculiar fears that hold us all hostage.

Ideally, if our caretakers are present, attuned to us, and lovingly meet our needs, we learn that dependency on others is safe.