Sublime

and don’t have to take them on… I can be a sounding board for her and gently and firmly follow through and guide her where she needs to go. With this change in perception, I no longer

On the parent’s side of the equation, the problem with the traditional approach to parenting is that it rigidifies the ego with its delusions of power. Since our children are so innocent and ready to be influenced by us, they tend to offer little resistance when we impose our ego on them— a situation that holds the potential for our ego to become s

“The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice.”

So, parents are called to be brave and let their children off the hook by giving them direct responses. We must speak to our children’s strengths rather than fearing their weaknesses.

a transitional situation, a time when Henry needed to feel his mother was in control, with play time, a time when a child is best left to direct what will happen.

When we are around small children who frustrate us, we don’t declare them evil; we don’t bear down on them to show them how misguided they are. We find less alarming ways of understanding how they have come to say or do certain things. We don’t readily assign a negative motive or mean intention to a small person; we reach around for the most benevo

Rather, it’s about treating our children with respect and compassion, consciously slowing down and reclaiming our children’s right to play, and creating a rhythmic, intentional home environment where our children feel safe and flourish.