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The Unschooled Mind: How Children Think and How Schools Should Teach, the developmental psychologist Howard Gardner

What I’ve concluded is that much of a child’s response to trauma has to do with ours.

Ideally, if our caretakers are present, attuned to us, and lovingly meet our needs, we learn that dependency on others is safe.

Hence a conscious approach to parenting urges parents to address issues that are the hallmarks of consciousness, such as: Am I allowing myself to be led toward greater spiritual awakening through my relationship with my children? How can I parent my children with an awareness of what they truly need from me, and thus become the parent they deserve

If you are one of the grown-ups who really want to know how to bring the best out of the children you are around, then you are not alone.

• Regulate your own emotions:“Our ability to self-regulate might have the biggest impact on who our child turns out to be compared to anything else we do”


• Connect with your kids


• Coach instead of punishing

caregiving advice we’ve ever heard comes from flight attendants: “Put on your own oxygen mask before assisting others.”