Sublime

In an emotionally healthy childhood, the child can see that the good carer isn’t either entirely good or wholly bad and so isn’t worthy of either idealization or denigration. The child accepts the faults and virtues of the carer with melancholy maturity and gratitude – and in doing so, by extension, becomes ready to accept that everyone they like

Rather, understanding the ramifications of unconsciousness and becoming aware of its consequences can motivate a person to embark on the penetrating self-examination that’s required to become an effective parent. In this your children are your allies, as they repeatedly mirror aspects of your unconsciousness, affording you opportunity after

A single misplaced response can shrivel a child’s spirit, whereas the right comment can encourage them to soar. In each moment, we can choose to make or break, foster or cause to freeze up.

As we realised from Dr. Perry, co-regulation is the first stage in helping to bring the best out of children. Our biggest tool is our own body.

they saw parenting as being about teaching children how to behave. It wasn’t until 1946 that Dr. Benjamin Spock, in the original version of his megaseller The Common Sense Book of Baby and Child Care, widely popularized the idea that children’s feelings and individuality were important factors to consider, in addition to physical care and

if you are first tough on the behavior, and then supportive of the person, it works better.”

Lipton stresses the importance of what he terms conscious parenting—parenting with the awareness that, from preconception all the way through postnatal development, a child’s development and health can be profoundly influenced by the parent’s thoughts, attitudes, and behaviors.

Don’t withhold your affection or attention from your “favorite child” in order to make it up to a less favored child. Some