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agree totally with Dr. Thomas Gordon, who says, “I think all parents are potential child-abusers, because the basic way of raising children is through power and authority. I think it is destructive when many parents have the idea: ‘It is my kid, I can do what I want to do with my kid.’ It is violent, it is destructive.” A child is not a thing, it i

request.

Communication and behavior are governed by strict rules and procedures.

This teacher was kind and well-intentioned, but I wonder whether students like the young safety officer would be better off if we appreciated that not everyone aspires to be a leader in the conventional sense of the word—that some people wish to fit harmoniously into the group, and others to be independent of it. Often the most highly creative peop

fourth and eighth grade, the students were rated by their teachers on some other qualities. Here’s a sample:

PHILOSOPHER: One has to pay attention. Adlerian psychology does not recommend the noninterference approach. Noninterference is the attitude of not knowing, and not even being interested in knowing what the child is doing. Instead, it is by knowing what the child is doing that one protects him. If it’s studying that is the issue, one tells the child

nothing was more disturbing to the students as a group than the admittedly provocative suggestion that when they are in a position of formal authority, they have virtually no autonomy. So strong are the forces acting on them to maintain the equilibrium of the social system, they are essentially only puppets on a string.

Be reliable and trustworthy.

Parents need guidance in directing their children on the road that leads to responsible educational independence. Learners need experienced leadership when they encounter rough terrain. These two needs are quite distinct: the first is a need for pedagogy, the second for intellectual leadership in all other fields of knowledge. The first calls for k