Love, Freedom, and Aloneness: On Relationships, Sex, Meditation, and Silence

On the path of love, get so dissolved that only the other becomes real and you become a shadow and by and by you completely disappear. On the path of love, God remains, you disappear; on the path of meditation, God disappears, you appear. But the total and the ultimate result is the same. A great synthesis happens.

“In this day and age,” said Rabbi Moshe, “the greatest devotion, greater than learning and praying, consists in accepting the world exactly as it happens to be.”

Your blissfulness is with you whatever you are doing. It will enhance every activity, it will enrich every act that you do. Your love will have a totally different flavor. Now there will not be any hate hiding behind it; it will be simply love. There will not be even the expectation that something should be returned to you. You don’t need anything.

In Latin there is a dictum: agere sequitur esse—to do follows to be; action follows being. It is tremendously beautiful. Don’t try to change your action—try to find out your being, and action will follow. The action is secondary; being is primary.

Then sadness will start changing its form; it will become a silent joy, uncaused by anybody outside you. That will not be shallow happiness, which can be taken away very easily.

Except for awareness, nothing changes a person, nothing at all. So don’t try to pretend. That which has not happened, has not happened. Understand it, and don’t try to pretend and don’t try to make others believe that it has happened, because nobody is going to lose in this deception except you.

It is an ancient battle, and foolish, utterly foolish, so please beware: Don’t create any battle between sex and silence. If you create a battle, your sex will be ugly, sick, and your silence will be dull and dead. Let sex and silence meet and merge. In fact the greatest moments of silence are those which are followed by love, great love, peaks of

Let this be a fundamental rule of life, one of the most fundamental: Whatsoever you are toward yourself, you will be toward others. If you love yourself, you will love others. If you are flowing within your being, you will be flowing in relationships, also. If you are frozen inside, you will be frozen outside, also. The inner tends to become the ou

Love arises out of aloneness. Aloneness makes you overfull, love receives your gifts. Love empties you so that you can become full again. Whenever you are emptied by love, aloneness is there to nourish you, to integrate you.

Psychologists have been searching and they have come to recognize a great factor in human misfortune—that is, that ordinarily people live only ten percent. They live ten percent, they breathe ten percent, they love ten percent, they enjoy ten percent—ninety percent of their life is simply not allowed. This is sheer waste! One should live at the hun