Sublime

Continual intensity of a parent’s focus on his child could actually be experienced as quite intrusive by the child. Within parent-child relationships there are cycling needs for connection and separation. It is important for parents to be sensitive to times when the child needs solitude as well as joining. The attuned parent respects the natural os

it is important to attune to, or resonate with the emotional experience inside the child before changing the external behavior.

The twentieth-century psychoanalyst Donald W. Winnicott observed that children playing within a certain radius of their mothers display higher levels of creativity in their games than those who play farther away.

When parents are able to reliably respond to their child’s emotional and physical needs, that child is able to learn over time that what she feels can be communicated, and responded to.

referred to as the strange situation test (the version described here is an abbreviated version of the test). Mary Ainsworth was fascinated by the way in which children’s exploratory drive—their ability to play and learn—could be aroused or stifled by their mother’s presence or departure. She found that having an attachment figure in the room was e

As a facilitator, it’s important to discern between the overachieving student who needs to be encouraged to relax and fall into receptivity and the student who is hesitant and dragging her feet. The hesitant participant needs to be lovingly pushed toward her growth edge. This can be achieved by encouraging participants to ask themselves if they are

Parents can listen to and understand their children’s experience rather than tell them that what they think and feel isn’t valid.