Sublime

Another way to parent proactively is to HALT before responding to your kids. When you see your child’s behavior trending in a direction you don’t like, ask yourself, “Is he hungry, angry, lonely, or tired?” It may be that all you need to do is to set out some raisins, listen to his feelings, play a game with him, or help him get more sleep.

referred to as the strange situation test (the version described here is an abbreviated version of the test). Mary Ainsworth was fascinated by the way in which children’s exploratory drive—their ability to play and learn—could be aroused or stifled by their mother’s presence or departure. She found that having an attachment figure in the room was

Any job that requires guiding or caring for younger children is ideal, such as a babysitter, camp counselor, or assistant coach. Even as they need mentors themselves, they can serve as a mentor to younger kids. Helping younger kids seems to turn on an empathy switch and a leadership gene.

Sometimes they can use their upstairs brain, and sometimes they can’t.

The only meaningful way for parent and child to relate is as spiritual partners in mutual spiritual advancement.

who you want to be, how you want to be there for the people in your life and how to hold boundaries and nurture yourself within those relationships can act as a compass.