The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind

With every fun, enjoyable experience you give your children while they are with the family, you provide them with positive reinforcement about what it means to be in loving relationship with others.

Whole-Brain Strategy #8: Let the Clouds of Emotions Roll By: Teaching That Feelings Come and Go

Implicit memories are often positive and work in our favor, like when we fully expect to be loved by those around us simply because we’ve always been loved.

The problem with an implicit memory, especially of a painful or negative experience, is that when we aren’t aware of it, it becomes a buried land mine that can limit us in significant and sometimes debilitating ways.

They are states, not traits.

When we don’t offer a place for children to express their feelings and recall what happened after an overwhelming event, their implicit-only memories remain in dis-integrated form, leaving the children with no way to make sense of their experience.

The kinds of relationships they experience will lay the groundwork for how they relate to others for the rest of their lives.

That means that when you give your children lots of practice at remembering—by having them tell and retell their own stories—you improve their ability to integrate implicit and explicit memories.

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