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Emotional intelligence includes a self-awareness that allows one to recognize and manage one’s moods, and to motivate oneself toward a goal. It involves feeling empathy toward others, being aware of their feelings, and being able to relate to others through interaction, conflict resolution, and negotiations.

Of the many emerging descriptions of our social brain, for me the simplest and most elegant is the highly regarded Social Baseline Theory of Lane Beckes and James A. Coan, two researchers at the University of Virginia.

Since emotional regulation is the critical issue in managing the effects of trauma and neglect, it would make an enormous difference if teachers, army sergeants, foster parents, and mental health professionals were thoroughly schooled in emotional-regulation techniques.

Let’s rank people based on their ability to co-regulate with other individuals

Dans son ouvrage The power paradox, le psychologue social Dacher Keltner a étudié ce que le pouvoir fait aux hommes. Le tableau qu’il en dégage est inquiétant : le pouvoir émousse l’empathie et nous pousse à mal nous conduire.

concern, or shifts in moods in group settings, the more skilled you will be in maneuvering through the social wilds of your life.

For example, he posits that active listening and emotional intelligence are inextricably linked. “You know, we think about what we want to say, and we don’t really listen to the other person. We cut them off. We interrupt,” he says. Now consider how poor listening might manifest in technology meeting spaces, trying to meet a deadline while facing a