Sublime

“In the developmental history of these patients a striking finding was the early effective loss of one or both parents,

“If I can hurt you before you hurt me then I will feel powerful or in control.”

Here, there isn’t a consistent pattern. These children show behaviors characteristic of one or more other attachment styles alternating with moments of confusion and fear. This is the pattern found in the majority of children who are abused.

Be honest with yourself while also offering unconditional love and support.

Research indicates that a woman’s ability to form a secure attachment with her child is related more to her capacity to deal with painful emotional events than it is to her actual history of trauma and loss.62

Believing that if he responded to his mother’s neediness by being attentive and nurturing, she would be available to him when he had needs.

anxiety focused on women,