I am more aware of how I overstep my boundaries, and how I try to force things to work the way I want them to work.

Twelve Step template

Denial Some Choice Greater Choice Discernment

I wasn’t aware of the family secret until I came into ACA.

We also learn how to ask for what we need, instead of manipulating people for something we don’t need.

We projected our abandoning parents onto a Higher Power, believing that God was vengeful or indifferent.

I’ve been through my Fourth, Fifth, and Sixth Steps so I know the truth about myself. The truth is that I am a good and loving person who has some flaws. Those flaws are like small cracks in a beautiful vase.

The traits also caused us to recreate our family of origin in our adult relationships.

We also learned that our compulsion to control ourselves or others was a major stumbling block in our ability to let God help us.