Rob Tourtelot

from the great Hanif Kureishi —

"One falls in love, and then learns, for the duration, that one is at the mercy of someone else's childhood."

I want to invent new paths forward every day. And I want to make people feel their way to the truth. I want to rearrange their hearts using my words. I want to redesign their minds -- artfully and thoughtfully and inventively. When I give that gift to someone else, I receive it, too. It’s the absolute best. It’s not easy but it never gets old.

Executive performance coach Julie Gurner on the power of better questions:

“The questions you ask yourself will largely determine the answers you get.

• “Why am I not successful?” You’ll get answers that berate you.


• “How can I succeed here?” You’ll get answers that push you.

In both the art and the business worlds, the difference between the amateurs and the professionals is simple: The professionals know they’re winging it. The amateurs pretend they’re not.

Some questions that I’ve found to be very effective in one-on-ones: If we could improve in any way, how would we do it? What’s the number-one problem with our organization? Why? What’s not fun about working here? Who is really kicking ass in the company? Whom do you admire? If you were me, what changes would you make? What don’t you like about the

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It is as if we lived in a world where only diamonds could be used to put out a fire. In this alternate universe, fires are easy to start and break out everywhere, but water, which is as common there as here, won’t put them out. Only diamonds, which are just as rare as on Earth, will put out a fire. Only a very few unique individuals are capable of

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What if you gave yourself the gift of inner acceptance? What would it open up for you?