rob hardy

Great conversations give us this gift: we receive more than we sought.

We find ourselves saying things we didn't know we knew, wanting things we didn’t know we wanted, becoming someone we didn’t yet know we could be. The path matters because the path changes us, and in changing us, it changes where we can go next.

In actuality, perfectionism must be seen as a potent force capable of bringing intense pain, frustration and paralysis, or incredible satisfaction and creative contribution, depending upon how it is channeled. It has the potential to lead to professional fulfillment and spiritual development, but if the energy is diverted by self-doubt and lack of

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“In most of our human relationships, we spend much of our time reassuring one another that our costumes of identity are on straight.”

― ram dass

Thankfully humans have invented a whole infrastructure for nemeses to cooperate - we call it contract law. Contracts make it possible for enemies to interact in a predictable, rule-based way, where the representations and commitments of each party in a contract are enforced by powerful institutions.

The obsession with statistical norms has turned psychology into a system for pathologizing difference. Any deviation from statistical norms is labeled a "disorder." Instead of understanding the full spectrum of human experience, we rush to correct it.

This is precisely what Jung fought against.3 He saw this for what it was: not science, but... See more

When you solve problems, you get customers. When you give people better stories about themselves, you build movements. When you give them something to defend, you create evangelists.

There's so little to be done except let go, follow one's nature, and unfold what needs to happen moment by moment, even in the midst of dissolution and Mystery. I am no longer talking about caterpillars.