rob hardy
@robhardy
writer of manifestos, petter of cats. always in pursuit of a more beautiful internet 🌱
rob hardy
ungated.life
perfectionism encompasses the ability to look inward, and know without equivocation, that growing towards unmet potential is one of the primary aims of a human life.
- How to Ruin a Great Conversation:
1. Replace curiosity with curiositas.
2. Treat therapeutic self-disclosure as the zenith of intellectual intimacy.
3. Assume that talking about great books is the same thing as having a great discussion.
4. Allow your conversations to become sclerotic.
5. Focus on the form of your conversations to the neglect of the co... See morefrom Tweet by Luke Burgis
stage 1: try to defeat perfectionism thru sheer force of will
stage 2: try to heal perfectionism by doing a bunch of therapeutic inner child shit (also psychedelics)
stage 3: fully accept perfectionism, relate to it healthily, and watch it become a source of unimaginable power
the perfectionist's manifesto and Perfectionism is not a pathology
“An individual has not started living until he can rise above the narrow confines of his individualistic concerns to the broader concerns of all humanity.”
~ Martin Luther King Jr.
aliveness and
Perfectionism has nothing to do with getting it right. It has nothing to do with fixing things. It has nothing to do with standards. Perfectionism is a refusal to let yourself move ahead. It is a loop—an obsessive, debilitating closed system that causes you to get stuck in the details of what you are writing or painting or making and to lose sight
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Perfectionism is, at its core, about trying to earn approval. Most perfectionists grew up being praised for achievement and performance (grades, manners, rule following, people pleasing, appearance, sports). Somewhere along the way, they adopted this dangerous and debilitating belief system: I am what I accomplish and how well I accomplish it. Plea
... See morefrom Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts. by Brené Brown
- “Perfectionism is a self destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.”
from The 45 Best Brené Brown Quotes About Courage, Shame & Vulnerability
- Perfectionism is a mindset that demands we perform as superbly as possible to be sufficient as a person. We conflate our goodness as a person with our performance in areas we care about—academics, our job, our social behavior, fitness, appearance, parenting, home organization, the list goes on.
from “If I Let Go of Perfectionism I Won’t Be as Good as I Am Now.” by Ellen Hendriksen
perfectionism is a personality trait in which we constantly see the gap between how things are and how they could be (in ourselves, our environment, our relationships, and the world), and feel the compulsive drive to close that gap with our actions. perfectionists can’t just let it be. they are driven to make things better, even at high personal co
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