rob hardy

Until we’re treating ourselves with dignity when we are struggling, we’re not healing.

A good conversation is an act of joint exploration. Somebody floats a half-formed idea. Somebody else seizes on the nub of the idea, plays with it, offers her own perspective based on her own memories, and floats it back so the other person can respond. A good conversation sparks you to have thoughts you never had before. A good conversation starts

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Great conversations give us this gift: we receive more than we sought.

We find ourselves saying things we didn't know we knew, wanting things we didn’t know we wanted, becoming someone we didn’t yet know we could be. The path matters because the path changes us, and in changing us, it changes where we can go next.

Conversation isn’t the exchange of finished ideas but the collective creation of understanding that neither party could have reached alone.

“A conversation has a spirit of its own,” Gadamer writes, “and the language in which it is conducted bears its own truth within it.” This insight directly challenges information-transfer models of communication. Language isn’t just a vehicle for pre-formed thoughts; it’s the medium through which thinking itself happens. Or as Soleio writes, “Knowle... See more

Knowledge isn’t transferred; it’s born through the dialogue itself. The teacher becomes not an authority delivering pre-packaged wisdom but a partner in bringing forth what was somehow already there, unrecognized.

the most transformative dialogues often feature exploration rather than predetermined outcomes. We don’t know what we want, and we use conversation to get closer to articulating our desire. Some conversations are infinite, like games for their own sake.

There are only so many ways to begin talking, but with each exchange, the combinatorial space of what might come next expands dramatically. By the tenth turn of a genuine dialogue, we’re navigating billions of potential conversational states.