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My friend (and contributor) Sienna told me to treat Scary Boots as a duty. Not a duty to myself, but to the world. It’s my duty to follow the vision I have and share Scary Boots with the world. I like that.

he put me on an “idea contract.” Every month, I had to write a memo of what I thought was interesting in travel, and what I thought we should do stories on.

He knew very early on that I really love stillness, that I like to let the scene happen and walk away from a camera.

“You didn’t represent failure. You represented confusion. Most people would pick a side. Either be a writer and hang out with the writers, if you can, or, if you can’t, then leave the place where the writers are and make common cause with the workers and only the workers. Laugh about the guests and not care about anything else while you’re on the j... See more

An essay is not the process of translating a fully-formed idea into words on a page; it is the process of discovering and testing an idea by challenging it with form, syntax, structure.

I don’t think I’m so good at that kind of friendship. My friendships, if they persist for long enough, have a way of getting weighty. But heaviness is also part of the magic—it’s hard to love someone or something without getting in too deep. I think the right people will follow you into the water, and teach you how to swim.

Friendship was what taught me that love is an endurance sport with no finish line. You keep picking up the phone and sending your dumb texts and ordering crudo and white wine at New American restaurants and seeing movies together and asking about their families and sometimes things change and sometimes they stay the same. Disenchantment, reenchantm... See more

A virtue of watching a movie on my laptop is that I can pause.

to not seek being universal, and to know that if you’ve stayed true to your voice, the same way we meet our own friends, we will find our people and cultivate that world.