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An essay is not the process of translating a fully-formed idea into words on a page; it is the process of discovering and testing an idea by challenging it with form, syntax, structure.

I don’t think I’m so good at that kind of friendship. My friendships, if they persist for long enough, have a way of getting weighty. But heaviness is also part of the magic—it’s hard to love someone or something without getting in too deep. I think the right people will follow you into the water, and teach you how to swim.

Friendship was what taught me that love is an endurance sport with no finish line. You keep picking up the phone and sending your dumb texts and ordering crudo and white wine at New American restaurants and seeing movies together and asking about their families and sometimes things change and sometimes they stay the same. Disenchantment, reenchantm... See more

A virtue of watching a movie on my laptop is that I can pause.

to not seek being universal, and to know that if you’ve stayed true to your voice, the same way we meet our own friends, we will find our people and cultivate that world.

The writer is a person who wants to hide and be found.

Anything worth preserving will carry over incidentally, and has, and the rest will fade away, making room for more.

I fall in love when I want them to fill all my pauses.

“Falling in love is like entering a room you didn’t know existed in your own house. You think you know the layout—you’ve lived here a long time, you’ve opened every drawer, rearranged every piece of furniture in your head—and then someone says, ‘What about this door?’ And they open it. And suddenly there’s light you’ve never seen before. A corner o... See more