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Superficially, this seems like a sensible way to live, especially in a hypercompetitive economic climate, in which it feels as though you must constantly make the most judicious use of your time if you want to stay afloat. (It also reflects the manner in which most of us were raised: to prioritize future benefits over current enjoyments.) But
... See moreOliver Burkeman • Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals
By way of contrast, the ideal of limitlessness consumption serves the modern economy quite well, but it does not serve the person well at all. [2] This ideal imparts to us all a spirit of scarcity that darkens our experience: not enough time, not enough attention, not enough capacity to care. But upon what does this spirit feed? It feeds, in part,
... See moreL. M. Sacasas • The Art of Living
When we strive to be everywhere and do everything, we tend to feel like we’re not fully experiencing anything. If we’re not careful and protective of our attention, it can seem like we’re losing control of our lives, bouncing from one distraction to the next... A common example of heroic individualism’s futile efforts to get more done faster at the... See more
Brad Stulberg • The Practice of Groundedness: A Transformative Path to Success That Feeds--Not Crushes--Your Soul
fomo makes us lose control over our own lives because we’re too busy grasping for moments that were never ours to begin with. we want to be so many things at once, to stand in every room, to live every version of ourselves at the same time. but we can’t—and maybe we’re not meant to.
You don't have ideas because you don't read.
You can't articulate ideas because you don't write.
You can't leverage ideas because you don't build.
You feel bored, anxious, or overwhelmed because your mind wants ideas to flow but you won't let them.
DAN KOEsubstack.com
We too often think that deep conversations have to be painful or vulnerable conversations. I try to compensate for that by asking questions about the positive sides of life: “Tell me about a time you adapted to change.” “What’s working really well in your life?” “What are you most self-confident about?” “Which of your five senses is strongest?”
... See moreDavid Brooks • How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen
“Say more” and “care to elaborate” are magical phrases. You can also repeat what they said. “Work has been crazy lately.” “Work has been crazy lately?” That can do a lot. The question “why is that important to you,” while more intense, can get you really far, really fast, if you sense a mood of openness, especially if you learn to ask it casually.